chemistry, compatibility, capacity

Built around Rachel Zader's tweet: "Every relationship starts off as a chemistry test, then a compatibility test, and later becomes a test of capacity." Ava walks through the two questions love presents her: is this in fact The Real Thing (the question many people get stuck on for years), and if it is, can we do it justice? Using an old friendship that began with instant magic across a kitchen, she argues that the strongest connections often transcend physical attraction entirely — and that the long work of love is less about the spark than about whether two people can hold what the spark eventually demands.