desire

Substack writer Ava reflects on desire — what it is, how it disorganises us, and why a healthy adult life is not the absence of wanting but the capacity to want clearly. The post is published alongside an announcement for a Love Science × Bookbear Express matchmaking party (May 15, 2026) and uses the architecture of modern dating culture (apps, performance, hesitation) as a lens for the deeper question of whether we know what we actually want — and whether we'd recognise it if we got it.